How can you make yourself do it?
It’s funny…you think about things that you want to get around to doing such as losing weight, learning a new language, or playing an instrument. Or even writing a novel. You sincerely believe that you’re going to do that. But years pass. And you haven’t done it yet. Your children grow. And you haven’t done it yet. Your children graduate from college. And you haven’t done it yet.
I’ve listened to various people, I’ve read articles on this, and I wrote a novel. What are some of the common elements that I learned?
The first thing to do is have a genuine commitment to do it. You’re going to have to put in the work, the time, the effort, etc. to do it. You’re going to have to make changes to get it done. You might have to spend money. You might have to get up earlier. You might have to go to bed later. You must want it. Look at yourself in the mirror and make that promise to yourself.
The next step is to figure out how it’s going to fit into your schedule. I’m sure you have a lot going on right now. Your job, your marriage, your children, your house. A lot. What can you give up? What can you juggle? What puzzle pieces of your life can you cut into different shapes to make a new puzzle?
Do you need support? Do you need buy-in from family members? Friends? Don’t be afraid to ask. You might be surprised.
Then, as the famous Nike saying goes, just do it. I found that when I wrote my novel, I needed things to motivate me. I established a goal in terms of time spent writing each week and then I tracked it. I felt guilty when I didn’t stick to my goals. However, do cut yourself some slack. If you don’t make your goals, just turn the page and try again.
Now that I’m retired, I’m starting another novel, I want to learn French, I want to write a screenplay. But I’m also having a heck of a lot of fun snow skiing, water skiing, hiking, etc.
So, I must establish new habits while not having the rigid schedule that, I’m now realizing, helped me complete my novel.
I thought I’d share some learnings, some successes, and some failures with you. Hopefully, you’ll find something that will help you. I believe confessing my weaknesses to you will help me too. We’re all in this together.
Have a nice day!