Is it possible to switch from “hating” someone to “loving” them?
I’m not talking about romance, although it could be that. I’m talking about the regular people in your life. The people at work. The people at church. The other parents at your child’s sporting events. The people with whom you socialize.
I must admit, there are people with whom I struggle to get along. Maybe they’re bossy, or know-it-alls, or too pretty so I’m envious, or who knows what dumb other thing my brain fixes upon. Chances are they hurt me at one time or another. So that’s what I remember. That’s what I hang on to.
It’s simply wrong.
And I know it.
The good news is that I’ve spent quite a bit amount of time teaching myself to stop with this nonsense. Researching how to be a better person.
It’s really pretty easy. Just change your focus. Find one thing that is appealing about the difficult person and focus on that instead.
Maybe it’s a smile, maybe it’s knowledge, maybe it’s their flower garden.
Find something that speaks to you and focus on that. When your mind drifts off to negativity, slap it. And put that positive image in its place.
I’ve tried it a few times. It usually works.
But you must be persistent.
Try it. I hope it helps.
And while you’re working on it, forgive yourself for being human.
The good news is, you’re striving to improve.
If we all do that, the world will be a better place!